Emotional Lucidity — Sadness and/or Happiness~Part 2
We must be as diligent exercising our emotional body as we are exercising our physical body!
Your mind might be telling you this dirt road isn’t leading anywhere. Once you learn to connect to your emotional body you will trust your inner knowing and walk your path with strength, direction, clarity and confidence.
This is a continuation from yesterday’s blog post and I suggest if you haven’t already read it you might find it more cohesive to read that post first.
Lucidity in our emotions! Now there’s a concept that might be foreign to most. Being able to express ourselves emotionally with clarity, intelligence, connection and grounded presence. Just as someone would train for a sport they love, emotional calisthenics is the practice of connecting to your emotional body through training, desire, focus and consistency. I personally don’t see any difference between my running or any exercise practice and my emotional life.
I have been running while in Mexico. I knew since I hadn’t been running in NY during the winter I would need to start out slowly. So I started to run within the first few days of being here and allowed for all the kinks to start moving through me without complaint or expectation. Just allowing for the purity of my body and the needs that it was telegraphing to me. I didn’t say to myself–“Come on now you can run that mile or two at a quicker pace!” I just allowed for my body to ease into the fluidity of my movements in the moment.
You might be asking–What does exercising have to do with happiness and/or sadness. My point is that we can meet everything with presence and love whether it is exercising or feeling sad or happy or any of the myriad of emotions we experience.
I have noticed at times when I say or feel sad that there is a desire for joy behind that sad feeling. If I say or feel happy there is the propensity to feel a sense of “lack or sadness.”
Nobody wants to feel sad, right?
I find that people like it much better if we are expressing joy or happiness. There seems to be more confusion on how to handle the situation when sadness is present. I have come to the understanding that for most it is a difficult place to be able to sit with someone who is sad, confused or trying to sort out their feelings. Sometimes people will offer up suggestions: “Don’t worry things will be OK.” Instead of just sitting there listening and holding a space for the person to figure out what they need.
I have found that most people just want to be heard and seen in all of their feelings.
A statement I’ve heard in my early life is “What’s not to be happy about or Make the best of it.” Some of the newer statements dismissing feelings are: Surround yourself with white or purple light. Karma is a bitch. That is bad Karma to feel that way. You’re pulling in negative energy.
We have learned to stuff our truth about what we feel in order to be accepted. This has created a disconnect in our emotional body.
Everything changes once we are able to acknowledge and then identify what we are feeling.
Continuing my exploration around yesterday’s blog post and delving deeper into the feelings—
~I feel a sense of melancholy around leaving Mexico. Being here has been nurturing and rejuvenating.
~I am also looking forward to being back in NY with renewed energy and direction
The continuous and more deeply imbedded emotions that rose for me yesterday are still being explored. I was going to start unraveling by going deeper into those emotions here in today’s blog but I am still formulating those words by allowing the feelings inside of me to percolate a bit more.
There is no rush to get anything done!
I will sit with the feelings of sadness that rose and may continue to rise and be curious and observant of them.
There is always something else to explore and discover when being in connection to our human emotions.
Heart, Soul and Emotional Connections is my Passion!
“Get out of your head and into your heart. Think Less, feel more.” ~Osho
